This story is very touching
The girl gives details on how she & her siblings were humiliated and tormented by their parents:
Read what she narrates below
- Hi family, I just want to pour out my heart on the challenges I and my siblings are going through.
It is quite long because it has been on since we were kids so I would write them in bits. I am in my late 20's and the first child and grew up an unhappy child, as young as 9-10 years old my mother maltreated me severely (and yes she is my real mom) she is very malicious that she kept malice with me in the same house for 3 years without saying a word to me, I was in JSS1 then and it never stopped.
When I talk to friends and family they would say the parent is always right, go and beg your mom, and then my mom would be laying curses on me, "you would suffer you ugly girl" and so on and so forth. I would be reading in fear because she cursed me. I won't pass and I would actually fail the exams and she would come back to taunt me. She starved me in the house that I relied heavily on a friend of mine for food till I finally got to the university. In my teenage years I thought I had a problem. I even contemplated suicide so many times. Then she started extending this attitude to my younger siblings we all were in the university and only her and my dad would be at home because we schooled in other states. For a full semester, my mother would never call any of us for one day all 5 of us.
We the kids knew we were not the problem because my mom doesn't speak to her in-laws, she has quarreled with her best friend, she is keeping malice with her own siblings.......
Now my father has his own problems, he may have cautioned my mother on her malicious behavior but instead of her to listen she would keep malice with him. My father has a very violent temper. He used to beat us without mercy with any weapon in hand- knives, he kicks my stomach on a regular basis. The last time he beat me was 3 yers ago. I had finished my NYSC and was working already, he is a respecter of none he has beat up his mother inlaw, his sisters inlaws and his siblings nicknamed him " idi Amin".
When my younger brother grew up, he became our muscle, so my father couldn't beat us again because he was getting weaker, so he resulted in calling police for us all the time. I have slept in the cell twice....., for our part as kids we are not perfect we made good results in schools, we were never expelled or known as reckless kids, curfew in our house is 6pm and we abided by the rules till we all graduated and left home.
One time my father called the Army for us and (no offense to the police but the police just picks us up to the station without even listening to us) but the army men told my father that before he picks us to the barrack to "flog us" as my father has instructed him to do, what was our crime? My father couldn't give a reasonable answer.
The army men were pissed off and instead criticized my parents and advised us to try and leave the house as soon as possible.. Now today we all work (thank God) and are all out of the house but the torture still continues... My younger sister just gave birth. But from the 6th month of the pregnancy my mother never called her till she gave birth. I was the one who was with her in the labour ward and followed her home to take care of her. My mother never called just for no reason, and it is her first grand child. Tongues started wagging that so my mother can even extend her malicious attitude even when she has her first grand child, and out of shame my mother decided to come for omugwo ......
She came and stayed for a day and I know my mother always like to be the center of attention. But she saw that all attention was been given to my sister and the new born although I tried my best to please her. So despite the fact my sis was very reluctant for my mom to come for omugwo, her mother inlaw pleaded that we pamper her and we did. She never bathed the baby, she watched Africa Magic all through. The baby would be crying and she won't even carry her, instead she would be like " you are going to make her get used to being carried".
I gave my mom all the necessary attention she needed. My sis was stitched down there so she coudn't move properly but we tried our best to please my mom.. That night she wanted to bathe the baby, she asked me and I told her we don't normally bathe the baby so early. We bathe her by 10pm so that she would sleep and not wake up so early. As that is the case when we bathe her by 7pm. My mom said ''or maybe she doesn't want me to touch her baby?'' And my mom went straight to her room. I later dished her food out called her to eat she refused, put off the light and slept. My sis went to wake her up "ok mom come and bathe baby" no response.
We knew it was her usual self so I gave the baby a bath and we all went to bed. 4am my mother packed her load.. She wants to leave.. My sister's husband was shocked, asking her what happened she started screaming "let me go, I have my own comfortable home, rubbish ". My sis was like ''Mom, please stop embarrassing me in my home'', my mom just dragged her things and left.
My sister's mother in-law called her and told her that my mother called her and was telling her that we maltreated her.. Her MIL was like she knows her daughter in-law is not like that maybe there was a misunderstanding. My mother responded that she is always supporting her daughter in-law and hung up on her. And since then, my sis mother in-law tried calling my mom till today no response. This happened about a month plus ago.
Immediately my mom left that early morning, my sis called my dad and told him how my mom behaved. Her husband also called my dad and my dad was very sad and apologized to them both. I had to go to work that morning so when I had settled at work by 11am, I called my dad to also tell him and his tone changed to be very aggressive. I knew something is wrong and I asked if he had heard from my mom and he said she is already home with him. And I was like ok. And I ended the conversation. My dad now called my sister's husband and started telling him that why would he allow his wife (my sister to be controlling him), so he was there and we maltreated his wife. And her hubby was shocked.
Afterwards, my mother called my sister's father in-law and started criticizing her before him. My sister was fed up and sent my mother a text that she dare not run her down before her in-laws or husband and the next time she does, she would teach her a lesson she would never forget..After a while. I got a text from my dad while I was at work, that I cease to be his daughter. I should never contact him or my mom again they have disowned me. That he was traumatized by all the problems we are creating. I called my sis and she said my dad sent the same text to her.. ...this is not the first time my father has told me severally he has disowned me. If he is having a misunderstanding with any of my siblings, the burden would be on me. He would just pour his anger on me.. And as at this time he sent me this text I was fed up with the bullying.
I responded to the text that so be it.. I would not die but he should remember that he used to use knives and cutlass to beat us up and call police for us and we were innocent and enough is enough.. He now responded my text that I am a total disgrace and a shame to my family that all my mates are married and I am not ashamed of myself. Now I have made a decision to want to totally cut off from them, they are more harm than good and very toxic to us. I thought all this will change when my sister got married but I see how they are almost wrecking her home. Thank God for her type of inlaws.
I read about narcissistic parents and my mother is an ideal candidate.and the only solution preferred is cutting off entirely. I don't want them to even be at my wedding and my sis mother inlaw is saying that they are my parents, it is their right to be there. But they said they don't want and honestly I am through with them, because I know they want to use it to trap me especially traditional wedding. And my mom's friend was telling me how my mom keeps telling her how she would show especially me pepper, especially when I want to get married. I have had it up to here and I don't mind only doing court wedding and my husband to be would just fulfill all the things in the list for the village people and all that. And ignore that of my parents because I am tired..
I pray God gives me an understanding husband and inlaws. As for my future kids. God would help us to become good parents, now I am aware of how a child can be damaged when their upbringing is terrible. So we deliberately try to be not like them..
We are very close as siblings and my siblings see me as their mom. And I thank God for that.. I have a niece now and I see how my sis loves her.. And I know she would be a good mother.. My own mother tormented me that I was a wicked child that she went through labour for 2 days. But my sister went through labour for 2 days also and she doesn't even remember because she is over joyed that she has a child. God help us all.. (thanks all for your kind words) God bless you.
-JayBeyBlue
0 comments:
Post a Comment
We Appreciate You Reading This Post, We Always Like To Hear From You, Please Take A Minute To Share Your Thoughts On The Comments Board Below.